Imagine falling toward a black hole. At the event horizon, nothing special happens: no wall and no jolt. For a large black hole you would feel nothing at that moment, because the horizon is not a surface.
What does hurt is the difference in pull. Gravity pulls harder on whatever is closer, so if you fall feet first, your feet are pulled more than your head, and you are stretched. You would be stretched along the line of fall, not crushed from all sides. Physicists call this a tidal force.
Where this becomes deadly depends on the size of the black hole. For a small one, with the mass of a few Suns, the stretching at the horizon is already extreme, and you would be torn apart before you reached it. For a giant one, with millions of Suns of mass, you would cross the horizon with no sudden jolt, and the stretching would become deadly only deeper inside, before you reached the center.
Once inside, every direction leads toward the center. Engines cannot turn you round or hold you off; no rocket can delay the end, because free fall is already the longest possible journey. For a black hole of a million Suns, the whole remaining fall would last at most about fifteen seconds. Falling in is nothing, then stretching, then an end with no way back.